bondage

Bend, tie, punish, beg: bondage, baby!

The desire to try out the game with the will is greater than ever! Ever since Christian Grey blurred the boundaries between lust, power and tingling eroticism through the hard but heartfelt seduction of Anastasia Steele to the longing fantasies of millions of women - and men - interest in bondage has boomed.

No wonder, because the game of power and dominance, seduction and devotion pushes the body and mind to completely new limits – and thus to new climaxes and unimagined passions.

And not only that: many experienced bondage lovers also appreciate completely new types of connection and understanding for each other.

How do you get there?

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What is bondage?
Bondage is a special form of BDSM, which stands for “Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism”.

The word bondage means something like servitude and thus hits exactly the pleasurable core of the sexual practice:
In bondage, one person verbally and physically dominates another, who submissively gives in to all the seductions, love games and punishments of the so-called "top" or "dom". The "bottom" or "sub" enjoys being at the mercy of others and losing control through restraints and restrictions on their own freedom of movement. Both roles can of course be played out by both sexes! We generally refer to them here as "the dom" and "the sub".

There are no limits to your imagination: silk scarves, handcuffs, shackles, gags or special bondage toys allow for creative play. Despite all the euphoria of "taking it hard" on both sides, trust is also very important! Especially in order to test the shared limits of pleasure and to be able to fully enjoy this special, somehow forbidden attraction.

bondage techniques
From tied wrists to complex full-body fixations, which are usually particularly aesthetic because they highlight and make the key areas of the body accessible, everything is "doable". Lying down, standing or even hanging, as in suspension bondage, for example - but this is definitely not for beginners!

Bondage basically begins when one partner gives up some of his control and places himself and his ecstasy completely in the hands of a dominant person.

From this point on, everything is possible, from gentle play with feathers on the nipples, penis, butt or vagina to hot wax, spanking and electro-stimulation, which will really get both partners going.

Popular bondage positions
First attempts at bondage liven up any foreplay immensely and give an idea of ​​what awaits you in the deep world of bondage... With these positions you can wonderfully start exciting bondage experiences:

• Hogtie: The sub lies on his stomach, his hands are tied to his ankles behind his back.
  
• Spread Eagle: The sub lies on his back and hands and feet are arranged in a star shape
• tied to a bedpost or something similar.
  
• Strapado: The sub kneels and his hands are fixed behind his back.
  Conclusion: It's served! ;-)
  
  

Soft bondage – so “soft”
Not everywhere that says "soft"... In soft bondage, handcuffs, ropes or bondage tape are often used to tie up the person, which usually still allow the "sub" a little freedom of movement. This is also particularly appealing, as despite the bondage feeling of power and submission, many positions and penetration variations are still possible - but of course only those that the "dom" allows.

Soft bondage is particularly interesting for beginners as a thrilling foreplay upgrade! For example, to try out bondage on bedposts and furniture for the first time, or just on the hands and feet.

The intensity of the domination and the pain inflicted can also be increased slowly and easily with soft bondage. Sex toys and bondage tools such as crops, spreader bars or blindfolds can certainly play a role here!

Hard Bondage – the end of the closed season
Before you know that you have arrived at hard bondage, you can already see it. It is based on lustful toys, bondage tools, straps, gags, latex and leather. The appeal lies in the total abandonment and removal of any freedom of movement and action. In terms of pain, hardness and the proverbial sound, things are also turned up a few gears - and the pleasure automatically increases!

Precisely because things are getting tougher, a framework of trust and a safe word is all the more important.

Full-body suits – so-called catsuits – with a lockable hood made of latex or leather, mouth gags and even entire rooms with special bondage furniture distinguish the hard bondage enthusiast from the “softy”.

If you want to try hard bondage without remodeling your home, you will find countless clubs all over Germany – with or without “supervision”.

Spanking – Fifty shades of blue
Whether hard or soft bondage, spanking is a sensual punishment in all possible degrees of severity. And perfect for foreplay and pleasure pain tests. It's fun with the flat of the hand or various hitting tools. But don't overdo it, otherwise you'll end up with bruises!

Japanese Bondage – Shibari
It is typically Japanese to push craft techniques to absolute perfection and almost make a kind of science out of them. It is no different with bondage: countless Shibari techniques range from simple knots to complex and demanding full-body fixations.

Shibari is not only used to immobilize submissive people, but is also deliberately performed aesthetically and is an art form in its own right in Japan. The tied up person becomes an art object. The bondage artist, the "rigger", stages certain body parts and regions in a very erotic way, makes the pleasurable pain visible and/or fixates the submissive person, "the bunny", in special positions.

Preparation: This is what bondage beginners should pay attention to
A certain amount of risk plays a key role in determining the excitement – ​​but the greatest pleasure comes from staying just below critical limits. This makes it longer, more intense and more fulfilling for both sides.

The three most important basics are:

safeword
Be sure to agree on a safe word beforehand to avoid unpleasant and painful experiences! Crossed boundaries usually leave scars on more than just the outside. A little tip: don't use something like "Harder!" or words that are far too complicated.

Safety first for more pleasure: Knowing that you can end it at any time often allows you to go to “harder” limits in a more relaxed manner.

Talk
Communication plays a big role not only in dominating and humiliating, but especially before that. First, talk about whether you both want to do it at all and also about how far you can imagine something going. You can always increase your intensity, but it can quickly be too late to stop. Keep the conversation going during the first bondage attempts. With a little practice, you can then do everything using body language: an incredibly intimate experience!

Slap-by-Slap: Increase slowly!
Even blindfolded eyes or hands can trigger an increased feeling of pleasure for bondage newbies in both roles. Bondage needs to be learned, otherwise it won't be what you hope for. No Christian Grey has ever fallen from the sky. Speaking of letting go: a comfort zone is important for Dom and Sub in order to be able to perfectly fit into their respective roles. Be sure to leave the zone again and again, but in conscious steps - and enjoy each one!

How to tie up properly: Important bondage knots
If you want to go the classic route and prefer ropes to handcuffs, you should know these three seductive basic knots:

Square knot – connects two ropes and can be easily untied
Figure-of-eight knot – for securing rope ends and knots in the middle of a rope
Bowline – for tying a strong loop, for example to tie hands.


Ropes, handcuffs & Co: Bondage Equipment

bondage ropes
They should be made of untreated natural fibers and not too elastic, otherwise the limbs will be constricted too much when tied up. A quick cycle in the dryer or a little body oil will make them more skin-friendly and particularly supple. When buying: better to go to a sex shop than a hardware store!

Tip: When lacing, always leave a finger's width of space around joints etc.

bondage tape
Bondage tape that only sticks to itself, but not to the body. This is a great way for beginners to try out manually “wrapping” their partner.

Bondage handcuffs & shackles
This gives the "good cop" a break: handcuffs and shackles are perfect for quickly and easily clarifying positions of power and putting the sub in a submissive position. Whether behind the back or on the bedpost: they should never be too tight.

Handcuffs and shackles are available in all imaginable materials, colors and designs: from gothic to plush. They are often part of a set and can easily be expanded later with more complex toys and tools.

Catsuits & Co – Bondage Clothing
Special clothing is of particular interest to the sub. The most well-known item of clothing is the catsuit: a one-piece made of latex or leather, which varies with attractive openings, eyelets for bondage and hoods for covering the face. It is often equipped with zippers so that the Dom can determine what the sub can expect, when and, above all, where - and what he can see or experience. The seductive range of bondage clothing ranges from briefs with anal dildos to hand-knotted rope bodies - there is actually nothing that doesn't exist. It is worth exploring shops and blogs.

sex toys for bondage
The selection is so large that you don't even know where to start - but you certainly don't want to stop!

Dildos, plugs and love balls can be used just as pleasurably as riding crops, hot wax or nipple clamps. The important thing is where you want to go with them - and how hard the journey can be.

Sex toys with electro-stimulation literally offer a special level of excitement! Pleasurable, tingling impulses that build up on and especially in the body to create a pulsating power-devotion gradient. This brings Dom and sub into complete ecstasy from foreplay to climax. The harmless but extremely pleasurable electro-impulses give the Dom a lot of power, which can easily be dosed in exciting intervals. And the sub is guaranteed to lose himself in this intense stimulation. E-Stim toys are available in different variations - from compact and special to complex and versatile.

Risks and Dangers of Bondage
Of course there are risks - but they are, alongside the sensual game of power and devotion, also a desired part of the BDSM cult. As an exciting thrill that teases out desire.

But only to the extent that you can actually calculate the risk - this is especially true for the cathedral. Basically, only what both parties like is allowed !

The basic rules SSC – “Safe, Sane and Consensual” – which are recognized throughout the BDSM scene, should apply as basic rules without exception.

The body itself is often the best guide: There is a clear difference between “hot” pain, i.e. pain caused by pleasure, and totally unpleasant pain caused by euphoric haste or amateurish behavior.

Absolute no-gos are:

• No safeword set!
  
• Gags and games that restrict breathing!
  
• Ropes that are tied too tightly, hand straps, straps or tapes that are attached too tightly.
  Positions of limbs that cannot be endured for long, but are tied up in a way that is difficult to untie.
  
• One glass of “courage wine” too many that completely distorts your perception and inhibitions.
  
• Be sure to take our tips to heart and proceed sensitively.
  
  
  

bondage workshops
Cold water can be very stimulating during bondage, but you don't necessarily have to jump in together!

Many sex and BDSM experts offer professional bondage courses for beginners, which can be taken as a group, individual or couple. If you dare to take part in courses, you will be more confident later. And you won't lose the sexual tension you have worked so hard to build up due to mishaps, minor injuries or breakdowns - which is what makes it all so special and exciting.

Either way: love each other, work hard and enjoy your roles!

Now!

IMMEDIATELY!