The biggest punishment: not doing it!
BDSM has an incredible number of pleasurable facets. But the erotic core and the most thrilling pleasure in bondage, SM and the like is definitely deep in the various punishment variants! For both the dominant and the submissive partner: Here everyone can live out their respective preferences in their respective roles in a completely individual way.
How to keep the (evil) overview between spanking, tickle torture and ginger in unusual places is explained here!
BDSM Punishments – Why?
The appeal of BDSM basically lies in the fact that a submissive person (sub) submits to a dominant person (dom). Both roles can of course be taken on by both sexes!
The pleasurable power imbalance can be limited to the bedroom and the four walls of one's own home or even turn the whole world into an erotic playground - depending on the inclinations and experiences of the partners involved. No matter where and when the Dom humiliates the sub or orders him/her to perform submissive but nevertheless arousing tasks: If the sub messes up his task, he must be punished!
There are actually no limits to your imagination when it comes to punishment... apart from common sense and a few basic rules, which you can read about here.
But otherwise, everything is allowed, from inserted and remote-controlled sex toys in public to physical punishments at home. In addition to many popular "classics" that we will introduce shortly, the punishments naturally also depend on creative desire and a very individual integration of one's own personalities, life situations and preferences – what turns Team A on may leave Team B completely cold. So diligent experimentation is definitely part of it!
The most popular punishments – for him and her
Spanking
The supreme discipline of spanking the ass! The English word "to spank" means "to beat/to spank" and is usually fun even for those who do not see themselves as BDSM fans. But it is mainly experienced BDSM fans who love it. The special pleasurable pain of spanking is not only a punishment ritual but also a real turn-on. When spanking the bottom and thighs in particular, the stimulated and well-perfused nerves in the pubic region act like a seething volcano for the increasingly pulsating sexual organs. The power for the Dom therefore lies not only in the humiliation of the spanking itself, but also in the fact that he can now forbid the extremely aroused sub from any further sexual acts ... what torture!
The professional BDSM hardware leaves no wish unfulfilled: riding crops, paddles made of wood and/or with leather covering, whips in various designs and intensifying gloves make you mentally clap while fantasizing!
Figging
The oddity of the word continues in practice - because figging turns you on in the truest sense of the word! This centuries-old Japanese BDSM and SM punishment practice comes very noticeably from the old traditions that are rooted in the Far East.
Figging involves peeling a ginger root about the size of a finger and artfully carving it into a kind of anal plug or anal dildo, which is then inserted into the anus. The essential oils in the ginger cause immediate pain through a sharp burning sensation, which, despite its intensity, is completely harmless. Important tip: When carving, leave a slightly wider platform at the back so that you can grip the ginger well and avoid it "completely disappearing".
Figging is a really special punishment that the sub can't possibly ignore. Similar to spanking, the blood flow and nerves in the abdomen are stimulated very strongly and make sexual acts on the primary sexual organs - if the Dom allows them - incredibly intense and the orgasms much more intense!
Tickle torture
Although this BDSM and SM punishment dates back to the Middle Ages and was mostly used as interrogation torture, it still provides very truth-intensive moments of power today.
During the kiltzel torture, the sub can live out his desires between total loss of control and almost unbearable touches, while the Dom enjoys the loud cries for mercy when the most intense areas of the body are kiltzeled.
The basic requirement is that the sub is immobilized and completely unable to move. This is the only way he can be completely submissive to the Dom's tickling. The areas of the body that react particularly sensitively are of course the most popular - these can be the primary and secondary sexual organs, but do not have to be! The feet in particular make this practice a real punishment. Tickling can be carried out with hands, feathers, sticks and other aids. The main thing is that real limits are tested ... or exceeded.
Rimming
Rimming is also called anal-oral or ass licking. Originally it was a torture and subjugation method from the Middle Ages, but even today there are still enthusiastic lickers and licked-up people. The nerve endings on the bottom and especially on the anus react incredibly sensitively to stimuli and the tongue can be used very imaginatively there: wet kissing, licking and anus penetration with the tongue.
Precisely because the ass is a somewhat "dirty" place for oral sex, rimming can be used perfectly for meaningful power games. The Dom enjoys the intense stimulation of the anus and the humiliation of the sub - and the sub enjoys the submissive role of the punished during the licking.
Punishments can be made more intense by immobilizing the sub's head and having the Dom point his bottom towards the immobilized sub. Smotherboxes, for example, are used for this purpose: a special rimming wooden box for the sub's head, with an opening over the face and mouth, on which the Dom sits. No escape!
Bastinado
What is a foot massage for one person is a bastinado for another! It involves beating the bare soles of the feet with a stick.
It is important that the sub is restrained and the Dom slowly increases the strength of the blows! Then the pleasure increases on both sides and the sub is guaranteed to realize that he deserves it!
Electrostimulation
This modern method of punishment has already become a real classic and is firmly anchored in the BDSM and SM scene.
High-quality E-Stim sex toys push the nerves and pleasure centers to breathtaking limits. It becomes even more intense when the sub is tied up or restrained.
The world of E-Stim toys is incredibly large, varied and (un)educationally valuable for special punishments – a journey of discovery is worth it!
Forniphilia
A special form of fixation in which the sub becomes a piece of furniture and must remain motionless for hours.
Diaper punishment
A form of infantilism role play between consenting adults. IMPORTANT: This fetish must not be confused with pedophilia.
Important basic rules for BDSM punishments
Safe word
Agree on a safe word beforehand. As soon as it is said, there is a strict "truce".
Safety First for more pleasure:
Knowing that you can stop at any time often makes it easier to explore limits.
First talk, then do
Open communication is essential.
Keeping “bad” emotions out
Negative relationship conflicts have no place in BDSM punishments.
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