The Art of Erotic Communication
The tongue and lips are an essential part of sex, erotic games and even somewhat harder practices. They are there for kissing, touching and licking! But when you are not using them to bring your partner to climax, these versatile oral toys don't have to take a break. Just let them "talk dirty"!
Here you can read how to do dirty talk, why it is important for great sex in general and why the smartphone is an ideal sex toy for it.
What is dirty talk?
Dirty talk is basically about getting your partner excited with erotic words and sentences or pushing things a little further during sex. The right thing to say at the right time can be a real aphrodisiac. From one-night stands to foreplay between newly-in-love couples to spicing up everyday life in a relationship, dirty talk can take place anywhere and provide significantly more fire and more desire.
How intense, dirty or even offensive the words should and may be is of course very individual. Here, too, as with almost all sex practices and games, the rule is: try things out, get used to them and get better.
Who does dirty talk?
The basic answer is: anyone can do it! Our tip: everyone should – at least try it! You'll quickly find out whether you're one of those who like it. And if you feel like it's exciting but it's not going well, you should keep at it and practice.
There are couples where a simple "You're a thousand times hotter than your chili con carne!" over a cozy dinner can lead to unplanned and very passionate sex later in the bedroom. For others, it's more a messenger message saying "I'm on my way home. Be naked when I walk in the door! I want to fuck you right now!" that magically charges the sex and allows the climax to happen on completely different vibrations. And others talk dirty where it already raises the pulse rate just because of the potential listeners. For example, when you whisper quietly in your partner's ear in the queue at the supermarket checkout that you find him or her really hot in his pants and would love to fuck him right away on the checkout belt. That can definitely mean that you don't even make it home and end up moaning in the trunk of the supermarket car park and rolling over your shopping.
How do you do dirty talk?
You should really just get started, then the "how?" will usually come up on its own. Juicy dirty talk usually arises spontaneously from certain situations, feelings or desires. The channels and communication methods often play an important role and can even help you find the hottest style for your dirty talk.
Dirty Talk – straight to the face
Whether screaming or whispering: you look at each other and into each other's eyes, you experience each other directly and create a tingling atmosphere. Direct dirty talk can be so stimulating that you want to rip your clothes off immediately or even turn it into a long and exciting version of foreplay.
Dirty Talk during Sex
Dirty talk turns you on, stimulates desire and increases lust. But it can do even more: it is the key to important communication during sex. Communication that doesn't kill the mood, but helps partners to communicate their preferences and understand each other better. And better understanding is guaranteed to mean better sex!
Dirty talk on the smartphone – is awesome!
Smartphones offer many possibilities: you can write to each other 24/7, record dirty voice messages, have dirty phone calls or even talk dirty almost live via video calls. Make use of this opportunity in any case. For two good reasons:
You can warm yourself up and get yourself in the mood wonderfully. Foreplay can start in the morning, even if you don't see each other until after work. Or if your partner is away on his or her own or you are in a long-distance relationship.
Small dirty messages can also be a good way to gently introduce the topic of dirty talk, because the inhibition threshold is a little lower.
So, start typing something dirty right now. It's like "fingering" the keyboard - and it's called a touchscreen, after all.
Dirty Talk Tips – “Dos and Don’ts”
There are actually no concrete rules for dirty talk, but there are a few tips you can and should follow.
Our tips for “Dos”
Pardon
Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, you say something very unerotic, stupid or funny. It doesn't matter. Just laugh for a moment, put it behind you and get back in the mood quickly.
Dirty is flirty
Dirty talk works on first dates, in new relationships or in sexually dormant relationships as an icebreaker for a great night.
compromises
If two people have different preferences, it is worth it to accommodate each other - and then come together.
commands
They are a popular stylistic device in dirty talk. They intensify the game of dominance and submission and push the desire from vanilla sex to BDSM.
Quiet sounds
Dirty talk is not necessarily better when it is loud. Sometimes small, raunchy whispers can make the targeted areas of the body glow.
Overcoming Inhibitions
Inhibitions are a completely natural reflex, especially for beginners. Take it slowly - once it clicks, the shame will disappear on its own.
Insider tip: reconciliation
Transforming the energy of a relationship argument into dirty talk can lead to absolutely fantastic make-up sex!
Our tips for “Don'ts”
Dissen
Dirty is cool, dissing is stupid. Nasty insults are usually a turn-off. If you're into that, check with the person you're talking to to see if he/she likes it too.
Convince
This is not a good way to convince your partner to try dirty talk. Instead, practice in secret and seduce him or her with a few really good and lustful sentences.
